The First Thing He Did…..

2 days ago.

Friday July 24 2015

that phone call.

the one you never want to get.

My husband lost his best friend in an accident that never should have been.

The stages of shock set in.


Lots and lots of tears.

Then I noticed something. The first thing my husband did was go searching for pictures of Jeremy.

From when they were teenagers.

Good times.


The old kind that were printed.


I compose myself.

I have 2 sessions and a consult and I have to keep it together.

The last session is a small one.

“Just the kids.  We don’t want to be in them.”

Inside my head I’m screaming, “You have to.  Please for the love of God get in these photos with your kids!

Thankfully with a little prodding they give in as I struggle to keep from being a big dark rainy downer on their session by telling them exactly why I want them in the photos.

….as I’m seconds away from bursting into tears and telling them that they could die at any second and their kids won’t care if they

dressed right for photos.



I can’t even put into words what a stellar human being Jeremy Tanaka was.

The kind of person you wish to be.

He leaves his beautiful wife Lynette, and four amazing children.

…and a giant hole in all our hearts.

By |2017-11-24T18:15:05+00:00July 26th, 2015|Blog|5 Comments


  1. Paula Munro Owen July 31, 2015 at 4:57 pm - Reply

    So so sad, and yes your words are so very true!

  2. April Johnson August 20, 2015 at 6:50 pm - Reply

    Thank you for writing this! I gives us all a new perspective on making memories.

  3. Anne Lawrence August 22, 2015 at 7:20 pm - Reply

    Make memories

  4. Ardys Tanaka August 22, 2015 at 9:48 pm - Reply

    Thank you for this. I miss him so much.

  5. Mama Smith August 23, 2015 at 3:26 pm - Reply

    also thanks for writing this. I am the worst for having my photo taken and i SHOULD know as my husband also died in Port McNeil many years ago and I wish I had more photos for my children of all of us. Thank you again.

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